With the passage of time, we become meaner and meaner. We are surrounded by the culture of consumerism all around such that we forget the basics, and that is giving. There is a lot of joy in giving. The feeling that you made someone’s day, that you made a positive change somewhere is definitely too good. I grew up in a family that believed in giving to charity, to the Salvation Army, to anyone who needs help, to friends and to just about anyone. Now that I am all grown, I know giving does not just mean giving tangible items. Even when you give a listening ear, you have given. When you give someone the time of the day, when you give directions … that also counts as giving.
Is there any scientific support that giving can bring long-term happiness? Yes, there is. Studies have shown that when you give, the same part of your brain that is activated by sex and food is stimulated. This has been shown by fMRI technology.
But giving is not all glory
That is true. There are times you can give and give, and give some more, until you end up feeling used. This is not a healthy kind of giving. As much as you have to give, you should do so smartly. How can you do that? How can you give such that you feel gratified and not used? Try my giving tips here:
Start by giving the free things like time
Everyone, even the busiest lawyer has time to give. So start by giving that. Even stopping on the street to listen to someone is enough. You can also dedicate a few hours each week for voluntary service. If you can share a morning smoothie with your neighbor, you will be happy to know that you kick-started their journey to a robust, healthy day.
Give to organizations
The joy of giving to charitable organizations comes from knowing that your money will change lives in a big way and that it will get to many people. You will also be happy that many other people are giving to you, therefore you do not feel overwhelmed. There are so many organizations that need your donations all the time.
Identify your passion
When you love something so much, you have no problem sharing it with others, even free of charge. Thus, when you identify your passion, something that you totally believe in, by giving, you will be spreading the joy about that which you love.
Don’t give when you do not want to
Many times, you will be forced to give to friends events, not because you believe in them but because they are your friends and you are ashamed to be seen as un-giving. However, you should never ever give because you feel ashamed. Give because you feel in your heart that you want to give. Take time to think about it. Giving should only come from the depth of your heart.
Do not forget your interests
You are your own biggest asset. Thus, if there is a way that you can marry giving your interests, then you should do that immediately. Companies give to the society when they start making profits and in return, the giving is a form of marketing.
Find your own style of giving
Everyone has a way of life that they are comfortable with and so i is with giving. Some people love giving locally, others love volunteering, and yet others love to give funds to deserving causes. You too can find a way to give that makes you feel happy, and stick by that. If anyone tries to lure you to give their way, tell them you give your own way. Give to needy people, who cannot pay you back for that is the most gratifying way of giving.